My parents split when I was about 6. They had my brother and me when they were young. My mom had both of us by the time she graduated high school, and married my dad when she was 17. My Dad dropped out in the 9th grade. They went their separate ways I think because they started so young and didnt have much of a wild period on their own and It caught up with them. They needed space. That meant divorce.
They each had a few different boyfriends and girlfriends along the way. I don’t think they ever had love for another like they did for eachother. My mom was the only one who had the ability to make my Dad cry and she was the only one who could keep his gypsy soul tamed. She is hyper and he is chill. She is a people person and Wal-Mart has more people than he can handle at a time. They are so very different and yet they loved eachother deeply. They eventually split and now they are friends. My mom has been with her boyfriend for 10 years and he tolerates her, which is hard sometimes because she is so high strung on her own natural energy. My father is a gypsy that loves his off the grid life. They can all be in the same room together and there is alot of respect amongst them.
As a couple, my husband and I have the same dynamic as my Mom and Dad. I am an outgoing people person and he has circle that is so small there’s not much wiggle room. I am a big book person and he does NOT like reading. I have a giant family on all sides. My great grandparents had 12 kids, 6 kids, all had big families Both of my grandparents divorced when i was a baby and all parties remarried giving me extra families to grow up with. I am taking like a few hundred cousins. I know and interact with ALOT of them. My husband has around 10 total. And he only sees a few a year. My parents divorced when I was young and his are still happily married. Our families and histories are very different and yet we were drawn to each other. We balance one another. He keeps me grounded and I bring whimsy and adventure to his life. Our relationship is unique in that I met him when I was 14 and immediately told people that I was going to marry him. AND I DID! We had a few rocky years as teenagers when we were figuring out who we were and growing up. We used to pass eachother love notes between classes and he still leaves me sweet sticky notes around the house. He is as close to a Prince Charming as there is in real life. Life is not a fairy tale, we dont live in a Disney movie, and as much as I hate to admit it, I am not Ariel and there is no Eric. But there is a Matt and he is everything I need him to be. He is the yin to my yang, just dont tell him I said so, he thinks I’m weird enough already.
Relationship dynamics are so compelling to me. I find it fascinating how two people meet, whether by nature or on the internet and then BOOM! They build a life together and make or don’t make tiny humans. They stay together or don’t, over and over. They adopt dogs, start businesses, grow gardens, grey hairs. I want to learn the stories of others. Find their WHY’s, HOW’s and WHY NOT’s. There is always more to a relationship that what you see on the outside.
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I am doing a series on the inside workings of relationships and why they are important to who we are and why we do the things we do. If you know someone with an interesting story to tell or want to share yours, message me and leave your email and contact information.